Conversations With Dad

  I had a visit with my father-in-law yesterday. He’s almost 97 years old and is now in assisted living. I wrote about his transition from his own apartment a few weeks ago. When I stepped off the elevator I saw the back of his little white head straight ahead of me in the dining room. He was surprised to see me, but he remembered who I was. Good start. I asked him why he was in the dining room at 3 pm. The cruise director overheard me and said they had a meeting in there at 2 pm and
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Guns and Racism, Dirty Money and Congress

  My last post was a rant. It had bubbled up inside until I could no longer contain my anger and frustration. It’s heartening to hear your agreement with those frustrations but, where do we start with solutions? Bear with me, I’m feeling a bit all over the place today, but I’ll try to make sense. Charleston. Please take down that flag. Now. It is a symbol of hate and insights the worst in many. How do we end this insane gun culture? This is not Dodge City in the old west, this is 2015 and every day is like
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War, Hate, Prejudice…STOP IT!

  I am so sick of WAR. The war on women, LGBT, drugs, Christianity, all of it! How about a war on stupid? I mean that literally. Most of the haters are pro stupid, pro barefoot and pregnant, pro-hate in general. They spew venom in all directions and it poisons millions daily. It’s sad how many uneducated people there are in this country. And, the haters want to keep it that way. Keep the sheep in the dark. Declaring war on anything will insure it getting worse instead of better. With the exception of WWI and II what has war
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June, Weddings and Father’s Day

  It’s June, the month of Father’s Day and weddings. With that in mind, I thought I would combine the two in one post about my favorite step-father and my wedding many years ago. When I heard my mother blathering on about Scotty I tuned out. After an absentee father and three step-fathers, plus countless wannabes in between, the last thing I wanted to hear about was her latest man. I quickly learned he had staying power and I could no longer avoid the introduction. To my surprise, I found myself wondering why he was dating my mother. He was
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Good News and Bad Spiders

  It may seem I’ve been slacking off since this is my first post in two and a half weeks but, trust me, I’ve been busy. And, it’s all good…well, except for the spider bite.     One of the best things was having four articles posted on Huffington Post this past month. I have many writer friends to thank for the help and support they provided to make that happen. There’s no financial reward at HuffPost, but you need solid credibility before you will see money from your work. The exposure there is a great help. One of the
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Loving Life in Cape May!

  This week marks eight months we’ve been living in Cape May, so today I thought I would share some random musings about our new lifestyle. It is definitely new to me.   We’ve lived in suburbia and enjoyed city life as well. We’ve had a home at the beach and loved every minute of it.  Cape May is completely different from all of them. We’ve never lived in the country. But, to live in the country within walking distance to the beach is more amazing than I ever could have imagined. Our old beach town, Ocean City, NJ, will
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Is Living Longer Really Living?

  For years, my mantra has been, “I don’t want to outlive my usefulness.” What I mean is, as long as I am productive, which could be making dinner or helping a friend through a difficult time, I will feel useful to someone and to myself. And when that time ends I want to quietly take a pill and sleep forever or get run over by a bus and die instantly. How do you arrange that? Obviously you can’t. But, you get my point. We see it all the time on a ‘feel good’ evening news piece. Some poor woman
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The Importance of Girlfriends

    Growing up I was never in one place long enough to make many friends, especially close girlfriends. But, sometimes friends find their way to each other even when it seems completely unlikely. When I was seven my uncle met the love of his life. He was eighteen she was ‘an older woman’. Not only older, she was a divorcee. Of course, my mother was on her third marriage at the time, so it went, mostly, unnoticed at our house. The love of my uncle’s life became my surrogate mother for many years. And through her I met my
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Arts and Flowers

I have to stop promising new posts on the facebook page. I seem to forget, life sometimes gets in the way. Or maybe I’m just feeling lazy because it’s pouring rain. As I looked through old posts for one to recycle I came across this one which is definitely worth a second look, if you don’t mind. It’s a good one and it fits perfectly this week since selling my wares has been top of mind.     I may have mentioned before how much I miss the flower biz. I do for several reasons, but mostly for how it always
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Please STOP Gender Shaming!

  I saw this on facebook the other day and it enraged me. It should enrage everyone. It’s not cute, it’s not amusing, it is gender shaming right out of the womb.   Allow me to share a little personal history with you. The cute photo of me in the little red dress I’ve used on the blog and facebook header was taken about six months before I got my first pair of glasses.     From that point on I was the scrawny little girl with glasses. Even after eye surgery, at nine, I wore glasses and remained scrawny.
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