Gratitude from Forgiveness

When I decided to write about gratitude on Thanksgiving week I realized forgiveness had to come first.  Don’t get me wrong, you don’t have to forgive someone before you can be grateful.  But, forgiveness led me to embracing gratitude with my whole heart. About fifteen years ago I read Simple Abundance by Sarah Ban Breathnach and started a Gratitude Journal.  The concept is very simple… at the end of the day you write five things you’re grateful for.   It’s not an easy process in the beginning.  I wasn’t a particularly happy person during this time in my life.  Some
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Forgiveness and Gratitude

None of us are raised by perfect people. My husband and I were not perfect parents, we weren’t raised by perfect parents and I have no expectations that my children will be perfect parents. Perfect parents do not exist. It’s a wonderful thing to aspire to, being a perfect parent, but we are human beings raising human beings. The margin for error is not even calculable. I love the saying, “If everyone raised everyone else’s children we’d have nothing but perfect children in the world.”  Right! When our first son was born I was determined to be the mother I
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The Season to Savor

It’s hard to believe Thanksgiving is only a week away.  Then, before you know it, Christmas and Hanukah, Kwanzaa or whatever you celebrate, will be here and gone.  What is it about this time of year that seems to sneak up on us so quickly then vanish in an instant leaving us wishing we’d, perhaps, slowed down a bit and savored it all more? I used to be a shopaholic.  I could devour a mall like a marathon runner and then go back for more.  Always looking for a sale or deal but spending none the less.  It’s an addiction
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Herman Cain, Joe Paterno and Power

Over the years I have experienced sexual advances in the work place.  In my childhood I had brushes with sexual abuse.  I was never raped, thank God, but by the age of twelve I’d learned more about sex than many adult women simply by living with my mother.  The parade of men through our lives was extensive and often living in close quarters I couldn’t avoid hearing things I wish I hadn’t.  It hardened me in a way that, perhaps, kept me safe. Whether as a child or as an adult woman in corporate America I knew how to take
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Rethinking the Blog

I’ve been on a purging kick lately, cleaning closets, paring down on everything from cosmetics to cleaning products.  The phrase ‘Outer order contributes to inner calm’ has been running through my head, thank you Gretchen Rubin.  Even my business cards are an example of, perhaps, too much going on. I’m feeling very scatter brained lately.  Please, no comments from the peanut gallery! How many of you even know what the peanut gallery is or where the expression came from?  I’d tell you but then you would know I’m ancient and perhaps find me irrelevant. (gasp!) Anyway, having just proved my
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