There is NO Fountain of Youth, but…

I thought I’d follow-up my last post with some things I’ve learned over lo these many years. Let’s face it, if we don’t learn from our past we’re doing something wrong. Here goes…   *Trust your gut. I was born with pretty good instincts, which helped me tremendously as a child. Being able to spot the bad guys, in the parade of men my mother brought home, was a blessing. Fight or flight was a very familiar feeling. As an adult I sometimes question my gut. ‘Surely that person didn’t mean to be rude’…or ‘Are they really being honest and
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Aging…It’s Not Pretty!

Today we’re discussing aging. As the tired old saying goes…’Getting old ain’t for sissies!’ Luckily I’ve never thought of myself as a sissy. I’ve never thought of myself as vain either, even when I worked in the modeling industry. I learned enough about the business to know I wanted to be in management. Some might say that’s because I’m bossy. They could be right. I like being in charge. I was a homely, skinny, child. After I got into the modeling business I would tell people what an ugly little kid I had been and they wouldn’t believe me. If
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Hurry UP 2014…We’re Ready for Better Days!

I have to say 2013 has been a perfectly shitty year. It looks like it will continue that way right up to the New Year…which can’t get here fast enough, in my opinion. The number 13 has never held any meaning for me before this year. Then again, I wasn’t around for 1913, so I guess I had nothing to compare it to. Perhaps when you have 364 dates with number 13 in them it becomes a cumulative issue. Not only have we personally grieved the loss of a loved one, just about everyone I know has lost a loved
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Marriage Tips…From a Very Unlikely Source…Dave and I.

Today Dave and I are sharing some things we’ve learned after forty five years together. I will alternate our observations with his in italics. In eighteen years with my mother, I had witnessed too many dysfunctional relationships. There was always the honeymoon phase which ended with the first fight. You see, in my house there were no arguments. Disagreements escalated immediately into screaming matches…a fight (sometimes physical)…the beginning of the end. Afterward she would tell me how much she hated the son of a bitch. How you couldn’t trust a man…yadeyadeya. Often, by the time I got home from school
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In The Beginning…Two Crazy Kids God Married

This is a slightly edited version of two of my very early posts. Dave joined the S.S.Kresge Company in July, 1968. We were living in Pittsburgh and planned to get married the following February. On September 30th the company decided to transfer him to New York. We went from thinking we could start out in a comfortable furnished apartment in Pittsburgh, to the reality of Westchester County, NY. Welcome to retail. In a whirlwind two days we were married. My step-father, Scotty was the wedding planner and he did a fabulous job! On the day of the wedding we had
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I ♥ Autumn/Fall! I ♥ You! I ♥ Giveaways!

It’s Autumn. It feels like Fall. I love Autumn/Fall. Writing that made me wonder…why do we have two names for this season? So of course, I googled it. Here’s an excerpt from this link: In terms of seasons, the period spanning the transition from summer to winter had the weakest credentials of all, and so it got lexicalized last. “Autumn,” a Latin word, first appears in English in the late 14th century, and gradually gained on “harvest.” In the 17th century, “fall” came into use, almost certainly as a poetic complement to “spring,” and it competed with the other terms.
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Birthday Reflections

This blog began because turning sixty seemed daunting, to me. It was a cold and dreary February and my mood matched the weather. Sixty?! Wow! How did that happen? That was three years ago. Birthdays seem to beg for reflection, don’t you think? I didn’t used to, but I do now. I lived most of my life rather mindlessly. Granted, I had good instincts, and I’m forever grateful for that, but it’s taken a long time to live mindfully. It’s always a work in progress, and the work continues. I survived my childhood on instinct and a fair amount of
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Your Self Worth Is NOT On The Outside!

I was reading the morning paper yesterday, which is my ritual, enjoying my coffee, and mentally preparing my day, when an article in the style section caught my eye. The headline was: Gimme Cara’s brows, blush, and stick legs! It was accompanied by a photo of this stick figure with stringy hair, bushy eyebrows, and bowed legs. But apparently I’m out of the loop on this latest ‘super model’s’ power. She was, after all, named Vogue’s Model of the Year.                       Seems women from NYC to Idaho are aspiring to
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Scatterbrain…Is It Just Me?

I want to thank all of you who shared great suggestions for the Aging series. There really are so many aspects of moving through this life to explore. I still recall my mother-in-law’s comment at every birthday…”Considering the alternative…” and she was quite right! I have to tell you, Alzheimer’s scares me more than anything. I have to make a pact with someone to prepare the Kool-Aid if that happens. Honestly I do worry about it a lot. Then I calm myself and realize Alzheimer’s isn’t my problem, it’s just Scatterbrain (the definition isn’t pretty). Sometimes I have so many things
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Aging…Everybody’s Doing It!

This post will begin an official new category here on the blog…Aging. Whether you want to age gracefully or kicking and screaming is up to you. I vacillate between the two quite often. I’ll be exploring some of the changes in the beauty industry, as well as plastic surgery procedures, from a journalistic point of view. All of this fascinates me. It’s a great time to be alive, don’t you think? Ultimately I believe aging begins and ends in your mind. Some people are born old, as I was. We’ve all heard the phrase, “She’s an old soul.” I don’t
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