The Loss of One of the Good Guys

  Friendships are rarely stagnant, rather they ebb and flow as we all grow and change. There are friends from childhood who you may not have seen for many years but whenever you do you pick up right where you left off.   Many school friendships end when we graduate and perhaps move to another part of the country or the world, for that matter. We stay in touch for a while and soon it’s the annual holiday cards exchanged. We don’t lose the memories of these friends because, I believe, all friendships have a bearing on how we change
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Adventures with Benson, redux

With all the hatefulness in our news feeds and my penchant for getting sucked into reading one more article before I block all shades of orange from my feed, I decided a fun dog story might be just the ticket today.   I’ve been thinking about Benson a lot.  Our big ole sweet, goofy, totally loveable Ben gave us many laughs in his lifetime.  I thought I would share some fun Benson stories with you today.     We lived in a small town in Massachusetts when Ben came into our lives.  I remember the phone call that Sunday morning
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Baked Brain Miscellany

  I’ve been immersed in the memoir lately and not blogging as much as I used to. Who knew first drafts could be so difficult? Not me. The Duffy Chronicles was never this difficult to write. It wasn’t nearly as emotional either. I find myself having to pull away at times because the memories are so real. It is ‘Memoir’ after all.   I’ve reached a point where even I am starting to get confused about the timeline and flashbacks, etc., so I turned it over to my editor, Doreen McGettigan, to see if she could make sense of it.
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Birthdays and Blogging

    This was posted in July when I was ruminating about turning 66. Sometimes I feel ‘rode hard’ like the famous Route 66, but most days I am not even close to that number.   It’s birthday week which reminds me why I started this blog. As 2010 lurked around the corner I began to dread the impending birthday mid-year.   Sixty   It seemed so daunting and oppressive. Thinking back on the year I turned forty, in a time when we weren’t supposed to trust anyone over forty, I wondered why that didn’t bother me one bit. I
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When Friends Become Family

  So, I’m sitting here on the porch of our old house, only I’m on the downstairs porch where our friends live. It still feels like home because we are like family.       I will never forget the phone call from our realtor when we found out there was a house we could afford to buy in our favorite beach town, Ocean City, NJ. In the beginning, we had two toddlers and found a place behind Gillian’s Amusement Pier we could afford by sharing with two or three other couples for weekends. It was 1974 and it was
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What Fills You With Joy?

  As we get closer to…to I don’t really know what, and every day is another adventure in insanity, I thought I would share a little beauty to brighten your winter day. Spoiler alert: It’s a rerun. But, hopefully looking at these beautiful flowers will brighten your day, and maybe your mood. Have a wonderful day! b 1/9/17     Here we are in the middle of June 2016, in the worst political climate I can ever remember. This post is not about politics. I need to take a break from the insanity that is going on in our world
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Small Town America

  With all the moving around we’ve done over the last 40+ years there was one constant, Dave had his job and every promotion was a transfer. Since his job paid the bills I was forced to follow my grandmother’s sage advice, “If you want to keep your hand in the pocket you gotta move with the pants.” The upside to all the moves was being able to continually reinvent myself. I have had many career reinventions, including a few businesses of my own, and it has been my extended education.   One of the most enjoyable was a modeling
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A Friday the 13th Rant, No Politics Involved!

It is Friday the 13th. You know what that means…? I don’t. I’m not much for superstitions. I do know it looks like gloom and doom outside here on the NE coast. The trending weather pattern is driving me crazy. It was sunny and beautiful yesterday. Today, rain and fog. Sunday may not hit 50?! Wtf?? So, at the risk of sounding grumpy, I’m using this post to unload some of the things that have been driving me crazy lately. 1st: Local car ads on TV. I will preface this by stating, I sold cars for two years. Not in
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An Excerpt from the Memoir

  The memoir is coming along and I thought I would share a piece of it here. This is still in the first draft, so many changes will be made, I’m sure. Comments and sharing are always appreciated!     I was still adjusting to a step- brother who was physically my size but four years younger. He was a nice enough kid but, he came with as much baggage as I had. Leaving a brother who had developmental problems that I still don’t know about, and moving in with a father he barely knew, plus a step-mother and siblings, it had
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What Happens in Vegas? #BAM16!

  It is Friday, April 22nd and it has been a week! Let me explain. This time last week I was sitting in the Phoenix airport with my friend, Doreen McGettigan, (who was kind enough to let me stay with her Thursday night because she’s 10 min. from the airport as opposed to my 2 hrs.), wondering what the hell we were doing in Phoenix. Our flight on #americanairlines was supposed to be a direct flight from Philadelphia to Las Vegas, where we were heading for the #BAMC16 blog conference. The first we knew anything about going to Phoenix was
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