I’m Baaack!


It’s been about six weeks since my last post. I didn’t plan it that way but, sometimes it helps to step away for a bit. Our current political climate was getting to me and then came December. If you have sons who have their own families you probably know you play second fiddle during the holidays. I used to get upset about playing second fiddle but, I’ve adapted. Besides, they both have sons of their own and will likely go through the same logistics with holidays some day.

Our work around for this issue is to create our own individual holiday celebrations with each family. It’s the best we can do and it’s always fun to spend time together. It also makes the entire month of December Christmas. That makes for hectic days, sometimes, but still fun to spread the love.


Here’s to a Great 2018!


I didn’t set a timeframe for my blogging break. Honestly, I didn’t plan it at all but, between trying to work on wrapping up the memoir and all the holiday festivities, blogging was at the bottom of my to-do list.

In fact, I didn’t actually work on the memoir during this break, if typing is work. I’m kind of glad I stepped back from it for a while. I haven’t abandoned it but, I needed some time to figure out how to end it. So I was thinking about it a lot just not writing anything down.

In that process, I had a eureka moment about how to end it. I’m feeling much more confident in how it will wrap up and that’s been a load off my mind. The publishing part of it still may be a problem, financially, but I won’t know for sure until I do more research and decide exactly how I’m going to make that happen. Just know, ‘Daddy du jour’ will be in print in 2018!

Getting back to the ‘political climate’…how’d you like Oprah’s speech at the Golden Globes last night?

You have to know, I am one of her biggest fans and have been since the ’90’s. She introduced me, and millions of others, to Sarah Ban Breathnach, which got me journaling, and that led me to write more and ultimately to blogging. I am forever grateful for that.

As her empire grew I sort of pulled away. Don’t get me wrong, I think she’s the real deal but, she brought in Dr. Phil and Dr. Oz and over time they had their own little empires. It wasn’t the same. I would say, it’s been about nine or ten years since I’ve watched her show. I do subscribe to her magazine but there’s rarely anything in it I can afford. When you are the queen of daytime TV you can lose touch with regular folks.

Today my newsfeed on Facebook was all about Oprah running for President! I will say, her speech was amazing last night and her delivery was spot on. The woman knows what she’s doing! But, as much as I admire her and LOVED her speech, I don’t think we need another ‘celebrity’ in the White House.

I’d like to believe most people agree we have had more than enough of ‘celebrity’ and not enough wonky policy experts in our politics for the past year. I know she is not the ignoramous we now have to deal with daily, and she could take him to school on any number of subjects but, still not know exactly how our government works on the inside.

There’s a fine line between ‘career politicians’ and being clueless about policy and governing, don’t you think? I want someone wonky as President. Give me a policy nerd! I love Corey Booker, he’s my Senator and he’s brilliant but, we would never be able to see two African Americans on the same ticket. Kamala Harris is another bright up and comer but, you can’t have two women, at least for now.

Kirstin Gillibrand? No. She lost me after she rushed Al Franken out of the Senate. Not Elizabeth Warren or Bernie, either. He is too old and she is a bit too hard line with narrow issues, in my opinion. And Biden? I adore that man but, again, he’s too old.

Senator Chris Murphy might be a good fit. He says he doesn’t want to run but he might change his mind as things start shaking out. With Oprah as veep I think they would make a good team.

I know I’m fantasizing but, just the thought of intelligent people running our country who love and respect it would help me sleep better at night. How about you?




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  1. Joy Page Manuel

    Amen to all of the above. Well, actually, most of the above. I still love Warren and Biden, and still a Bernie fan. As for Oprah, like you I too have been a fan. However, I don’t like this Weight Watchers venture. And again, like you, I am seeing the value of stepping away as I’ve also been M.I.A. from my site. I am still thinking of how I want 2018 to look like so… there’s that. Anyway, glad to have you back, B!

    • Barbara

      Thanks, Joy! It was time to step away but, now I’m ready to face 2018!

  2. Ellen

    I, like you, do not think we need any more “unqualified” people in the White House. I would like to see someone there who actually knows what the job entails and wants to work for the American people not feed their resume/ego. However, unlike you, I have not seen anyone yet who gets me excited for 2020. Hopefully, that will happen in the near future.

    • Barbara

      Who knows what the future brings and from where Ellen. It has to be someone stable, #1, and knowledgeable about government.

  3. Hopeful

    Way too early for decisions about 2020. Just gonna keep my mind open to whatever possibilities show up in the future.

  4. Mary

    While I agree with you for the most part, it’s gonna take a very special charismatic (not in the religious sense) person to beat Trump and his rabid horde of worshipping mindless followers.

    • Barbara

      Mary, I think beating drumpf is a given, it’s just a matter of who’s next.

      • Mary

        I hope you’re right

  5. Donna Tagliaferri

    Daddy DuJour is brilliant. I am so proud of you and I know it is cathartic to own who we are because the help it provides for others is priceless. Working through the politics is almost beyond my pay grade any more. I decided risking friendships was too high a price to pay for something I can do little about. I love reading what folks think about life, and I want to know how they arrived at their convictions, it helps me form my own. As for Oprah I feel the same way, she opened the door for me to own my childhood, and I feel the same about journaling…She will forever be a part of my tapestry. I don’t know if she will run but it would be interesting. This year is my year to focus on my health, both body and mind. My love to you, Happy New Year!!

    • Barbara

      Thank you, Donna. Oprah got me through the ’90’s and early 2000’s. It was truly life-altering. She’s grown more and more and I’m not on board with all of the things she’s into these days but, she can certainly do whatever she chooses to do. So, whether she runs for office or not, who knows?
      You’re right to focus on your health this year, and forever, Donna. I’m sure it will be a good year.

  6. Janis

    I completely agree with you about Oprah. I think she’s the real deal but are we as progressives so desperate that we’ll follow anyone who speaks well and has charisma? 2020 is a long way away and I’m sure other names will bubble up.

    • Barbara

      You’re right, Janis, 2020 is a long way off and anything can happen. I do believe a woman will be on the ticket, though. Not sure who or what part of the ticket but, it is definitely time!

  7. Stephanie

    So you had no use for Roy Moore (neither did I), but you are OK with Weinstein buddy Oprah Winfrey? And you were upset that Franken was “rushed” out after multiple accounts of him grabbing women? Seems as though you’re blinded by partisanship. OK for Democrats to molest women, but the other way around is a problem.

    • Barbara

      I seriously doubt Oprah has ever been Weinstein’s buddy. Many people worked with him who were not abused by him and if you know anything about Oprah you have to know she’s, perhaps, the biggest supporter of women’s rights in the country. As for Al Franken, yes I do believe he was rushed. If you paid attention to who was behind Ms.Tweeden and her allegations maybe you would understand it wasn’t exactly as it seemed. I am planning to address this issue in a post coming soon. But, all that aside, it is not ok for anyone to ‘molest’ anyone. It’s not a political issue. period.

  8. My Inner Chick

    Welcome back,
    gorgeous! xx