I’m Cranky and I Know It…Don’t Get Me Started

I’ve been in a very odd mood lately. I wouldn’t say cranky, but…yeah, you could say cranky. I’m just not feeling my usual optimistic self. I am a glass half full kinda girl for sure, but lately it seems the liquid is evaporating.

When I get cranky the strangest things start to make me crazy. (Crazier if you want to get technical about it.) I catch myself and think, “Why did you react that way?” Truth is I’m not sure.

For example…there are some blogs that offer up writing prompts. The bit of fiction I wrote a couple of weeks ago was based on a prompt from Write On Edge. I once submitted a piece prompted by Mama Kat’s Losing It, but most of her prompts are for mommy bloggers and I’m long past that. There’s another blog that has prompts and shall remain nameless.

I can’t recall how I stumbled onto this blog but I have met some really good writers there and I’m happy about that. What I find myself not being happy about is how dictatorial the site is for submissions.

I’ve read their rules several times and still find it confusing. There seems to be some kind of gestapo mentality in how everything MUST be done a certain way or you will be mocked in a public square or some such thing! Meaning, they won’t post your submission, I think. It’s hard to figure out.

I’m not against anyone having rules for their contests, or whatever you want to call it. I’m very PRO writing and thinking outside the box but I don’t like to feel I’m in elementary school and the teacher wants to smack me with a ruler.

Oh, and in order to submit to them you have to put their badge on your blog.

Now, I’m not saying this isn’t legit and fully intended to help you take chances and become a better writer. That is a good thing. What I’m saying is the way they (there are three administrators apparently but not much info about them) present the RULES is very off putting.

I did mention I’ve been cranky lately, didn’t I?

There’s an old saying… It’s not what you say but how you say it that matters. No one wants to feel they’re being scolded before they’ve even done anything. That’s how I felt reading their rules and regs.

It’s like a third grade teacher looking down her nose trying to make you feel less than. Come to think of it, I always rebelled against that personality type…even in third grade.

Maybe… I’m just out of sorts because my friends moved… It feels like November in early October… I’ve got too many disparate things going on at once and feel like I’m not accomplishing anything.

Could be any or all of the above I suppose. However, I must admit I feel better now after getting this little irritation off my chest. Thanks for listening!

Now tell me, what’s driving you bonkers lately?

 

 

 

36 comments

  1. Nothing like a bunch of rules to squash your creativity. Honestly, that is one of the reasons I started doing the 30 Second Story and Vintage Roll Call posts on my blog. Nobody to tell me what to do or when to do it. I do enjoy writing prompts at other blogs too but I would definitely stay away from one that makes me put their badge on my blog. Don’t boss me around.

    • Barbara

      Exactly Catherine! Don’t boss me around. I really like Write On Edge for their prompts, but also good writing advice. They don’t mind if you say on your post ‘this was created from a prompt…’, which is only fair, I think. If I do something out of the ordinary, like the fiction piece, I want my readers to know why.
      Whatever prompted your 30 Second Stories I’m grateful!
      b

  2. I hear you on the rules thing. I don’t really like putting badges on my page, so I have begun to bury the code behind a picture I have taken that I include in the post. OK, so shoot me, I’m bending the rules…I also have a self-evaluation do at work now which is driving me bonkers, so instead, I have decided to read your blog, which has delayed the inevitable, but now I must get back to it. Thanks for allowing me to take a break with you. :)

    • Barbara

      Anytime Bill! Does it count if you bury the badge? How do they know it’s there? I’ll help you with the evaluation though… you deserve a raise. Does that help?
      b

    • Barbara

      I so needed that laugh Lee! Thanks!

      • Betty

        That was a great laugh! :)

  3. I have a guess as to what you’re talking about, and I do not disagree. I put the badge at the end and shrink it. Somehow their server reads the code so you could hide it like Bill says, though I don’t know how to do that. Anyway, I sometimes go through this crankiness that you mention. Less so now than I used to. What I’ve decided is that my posts get read and I get feedback. How the administrators feel about it is secondary to me. It’s the other bloggers I enjoy hearing from. But, I get you, Barbara. I know exactly how you feel! I have the same gripes.

    • Barbara

      Steph you’re a really good story teller and I’m sure your readers would follow you whether you were part of the ‘grid’ or not. For me the strict rules hamper the flow of the story. Not every story has a pat beginning, middle, and end. I would love to read more of your childhood stories flowing freely! I know you’re fairly new to blogging but I’m sure you’re going to thrive. Give it a go!
      b

  4. Sweetheart cheer up!
    I’m with you on that point and that is why I try to stay away from such places… God bless then all! I don’t want my already cranky muse creatively vanquished. I do the WP challenges because they are global in nature and I don’t have to link to it or put a badge on my blog unless I want to (I do it gladly).
    If something tickles my fancy elsewhere, I might do a post now and again; that’s about it. I got royally burned on a not to be named site a few years ago with snippy, cliquey, sad behavior, and I learned to follow the sound of my own trumpet not the sound of some blogging militia. I choose what I write and creative freedom matters to me even if it means fewer likes/comments.
    Good day and love hugs to everyone… Blogging is a gift not a competition (at least in my book!). :-)

    • Barbara

      I couldn’t agree more Elizabeth! If I see a prompt somewhere that sparks a good story I will run with it, but most of the time I don’t. I’m sure no one would argue you and I march to our own drummer!
      xob

  5. People really do have a lot of nerve with some of the ridiculous rules they come up with. I recently left a facebook group because one of the administrators felt the need to post new rules, stupid rules every single day. I felt like I was back in Catholic School.
    I have been a bit cranky too…It may very well be this chilly weather. I am trying to snap out of it, I hope you can too…

    • Barbara

      I’m working on it Doreen. As for the ‘rule makers’ I think it’s sad when egos get in the way of creativity. That’s why I like Write On Edge because they offer solid writing advice in between writing prompts and they aren’t turning it into a competition.
      Hope you feel better!
      b

  6. I have not heard of writing prompts and based on what you and commenters are saying, maybe I haven’t missed much. I like to write but not when someone else determines the form and approach.

    This rule-centric approach reminds me of the HOA approach to neighborhood controls: overly zealous petty despots with too much time on their hands.

    • Barbara

      Oh Bob you hit the nail on the head! “Overly zealous petty despots with too much time on their hands.”
      Thanks for chiming in!!
      b

  7. I am so with you on it not being what is said, but how it is said. I have often found myself disagreeing with someone saying something I agree with precisely because of the way it was said!

    Anyhoo…I have found that, in general, people like to feel that their part of some exclusive club (I am not one of those people) and that’s why they create silly rules and regulations. Because there are people who will bend and twist in order to fit in. Then there the rest of us :-)

    As for being cranky, I find myself getting a tad more cranky as the daylight hours get shorter.

    • Barbara

      I hear you Karen… everybody seems to be having a bit of crankiness going on. As for not wanting to be part of an exclusive ‘club’ I totally get that. I’ve been way too independent since I was a child, so you can keep your silly rules that may bolster your ego but do nothing to help anyone else.
      Here’s to the ‘rest’ of us!
      b

  8. Betty

    Is it cranky or, just plain angry? I don’t know.
    I can’t seem to get this angst out of my attitude
    lately either.

    I don’t have a blog.

    What I do have is home remodeling going on. :(

    But, that doesn’t seem to be what the real deal is
    with my attitude. I mean, when you get to 50 you
    learn most things aren’t worth the effort of anger.
    So, this leaves me confused by my lingering
    attitude?

    Glad you are feeling better. :)

    • Barbara

      Oh Betty…remodeling can bring out the crankiness in all of us! Been there, done that. I hope it turns out as you hoped and your crankiness dissipates.
      b

  9. –You know what I think about those rules?

    B U L L
    S H I T.

    I’d never enter. This blogger must need followers badly.

    Xx

    • Barbara

      Kim, you always get to the heart of it. And you are so right!
      b

  10. Barbara,
    Is it a big site? The one with all the rules? My suggestion is start your own writing contest. Why not? Do what I did, then you can make up your own rules. How does that sound? The “gutsy” woman is trying to help you get over your crankiness.

    • Barbara

      Thanks Sonia, I’m feeling a bit better now. It was one of those days, you know? Thank heaven we have our blogs to let loose occasionally.
      As for starting my own… when we get the new Blogstress Network site up and running I would like to emulate some of the things they do at Write On Edge to share content. The occasional contest or giveaway may happen, but I’ll never make it seem like a police state!
      Thanks for the share!
      b

  11. Hehe. I think I know who you’re talking about because I’m about to submit something to a writing group that really has that tone to it. We’ll see whether I get flogged or not.

    What’s driving me bonkers right now is the whole process of re-starting my blog. I went from a public to anonymous blog after not blogging for 6 months, which meant I had to leave my followers behind. I forgot how frustrating it is to write and know that hardly anyone is reading, and how hard it is to find real communities with genuine interaction rather than “follow me” games. Most of my favourite places have died out, so I’m relieved Write on Edge is still here. And one of the best things about this community is the open spirit and lack of pre-scolding!

    • Barbara

      Did you voluntarily become anonymous or did they make you anonymous because no posts? That sucks. I think blogging is at least 50% about community, so welcome! You might want to check out http://www.theblogstressnetwork.com. I’m in the process of beefing up the space and making it a bit more like WOE. Hope to see you around.
      I went to your blog and subscribed.
      b

  12. My 3rd grade teacher was the meanest nun in the world and she made our life a living hell, so I can only imagine what you mean. :)

    I’ve actually been annoyed with the amount of negativity and meanness going on in the world right now. I’ve been writing a blog in my head all week about it. If I could only make myself actually put it on the screen :)

    • Barbara

      Do it Adrienne! I’ve been formulating a very important post…at least it is in my mind… and I think we need to use the forum we have to speak our truth. DO IT! What’s the worst that can happen? It won’t be the end of your blog. It might be the beginning of a new thought for someone. It might be an important change that will help us all.
      b

      • Oops! Sorry Barbara – guess I wasn’t clear. I’m not afraid of writing it. Just right now a couple of health issues are preventing me from being able to sit long enough to actually write it…little by little though :)

        Adrienne

  13. Everything. Pretty much everything is driving me nuts these days. I’m just so dang uncomfortable.

    • Barbara

      Soon you’ll be more comfortable but sleep deprived Sara. ;)

  14. I have that exact reaction to the third-grade-teacher-kind-of-approach. Even when I am not cranky. Hope your blues blow away soon B :-)

    • Barbara

      I’m back to normal Stacia…whatever that is.
      b

  15. I strongly suspect I still am in elementary school. Thats the only explanation I can come up with for all these people waving rulers at me. I’m not much good with joyless instruction myself so you have my sympathy

    • Barbara

      I’m not surprised at this revelation Peter.
      b

  16. Barbara

    Hope you are back to 100% very soon Adrienne!
    xob

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