I’m With HER, Here’s Why

  I’ve been thinking about friendships and how they may appear to others. Aside from our ‘besties’ we all have casual relationships that border on the fringe of acquaintances and sometimes grow into more. You meet someone at work and have an interesting conversation, maybe then you decide to meet for lunch. Over time you arrange a dinner date with your spouses. Maybe you all hit it off and the friendship grows richer, or maybe you simply continue to have occasional dinner dates.       My husband got transferred annually for much of our marriage and distance can make
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The Loss of One of the Good Guys

  Friendships are rarely stagnant, rather they ebb and flow as we all grow and change. There are friends from childhood who you may not have seen for many years but whenever you do you pick up right where you left off.   Many school friendships end when we graduate and perhaps move to another part of the country or the world, for that matter. We stay in touch for a while and soon it’s the annual holiday cards exchanged. We don’t lose the memories of these friends because, I believe, all friendships have a bearing on how we change
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Adventures with Benson, redux

With all the hatefulness in our news feeds and my penchant for getting sucked into reading one more article before I block all shades of orange from my feed, I decided a fun dog story might be just the ticket today.   I’ve been thinking about Benson a lot.  Our big ole sweet, goofy, totally loveable Ben gave us many laughs in his lifetime.  I thought I would share some fun Benson stories with you today.     We lived in a small town in Massachusetts when Ben came into our lives.  I remember the phone call that Sunday morning
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Baked Brain Miscellany

  I’ve been immersed in the memoir lately and not blogging as much as I used to. Who knew first drafts could be so difficult? Not me. The Duffy Chronicles was never this difficult to write. It wasn’t nearly as emotional either. I find myself having to pull away at times because the memories are so real. It is ‘Memoir’ after all.   I’ve reached a point where even I am starting to get confused about the timeline and flashbacks, etc., so I turned it over to my editor, Doreen McGettigan, to see if she could make sense of it.
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A Weekend to Celebrate Summer!

  I took a well-needed break from news and politics over the weekend. I think I’ll do that more often because it helped clear my head and heart. I’ve been interested in politics since the Kennedy era. When you live in the greatest country on earth your/ our politics are important worldwide. What’s going on this year is an embarrassment to us all. So instead of all that, we watched the opening ceremony of the Olympics, which is always inspiring. The Refugee team is, hands down, the most inspirational group out there, in my opinion. U.S.A. has broken records already and
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Let’s Review the DNC

  So, round two of this crazy political year is over. The DNC did a great job, in my opinion. Keeping on point about the positive things we love about our country and need to nurture, versus praising Russia and other dictatorships while denigrating our country.     Such a stark contrast it’s impossible not to notice the differences. Unlike the RNC, there were some very impressive speakers at this convention. Not all were politicians, but it was all a step above plagiary, Chachi, and the Duck Dynasty guy. If nothing else, this convention showed us how infantile Drumpf really
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Cleveland’s Circus is Over, What Did You Think?

  So round one is over and what have we learned?     Here’s my take-away… It was like watching a cross between the Wild Wild West and WWE.   Some parts that were calm and somewhat civilized were plagiarized. Of course, once that was brought to light everyone thought it was a silly mistake and no harm or disrespect meant to Mrs. Obama.   The illustrious governor of my state, NJ, made a total spectacle of himself and everyone else in the room by stirring up a lynch mob. And, he wants to be drumpf’s attorney general!   Ted
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Convention Time: Let the Games Begin

  My last post was on July 7th. In that post, I was feeling good about my birthday, and how writing this blog has helped me expand my horizons over the six and a half years I’ve been at it. And, celebrating the friends I’ve made through blogging. Later that evening all hell broke loose in Dallas, as a sniper attacked police during a peaceful demonstration, killing five officers and wounding others.     This was right on the heels of the senseless killing of Philando Castile in Minnesota and Alton Sterling in Baton Rouge, LA, by police officers. Then
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Birthdays and Blogging

    This was posted in July when I was ruminating about turning 66. Sometimes I feel ‘rode hard’ like the famous Route 66, but most days I am not even close to that number.   It’s birthday week which reminds me why I started this blog. As 2010 lurked around the corner I began to dread the impending birthday mid-year.   Sixty   It seemed so daunting and oppressive. Thinking back on the year I turned forty, in a time when we weren’t supposed to trust anyone over forty, I wondered why that didn’t bother me one bit. I
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When Friends Become Family

  So, I’m sitting here on the porch of our old house, only I’m on the downstairs porch where our friends live. It still feels like home because we are like family.       I will never forget the phone call from our realtor when we found out there was a house we could afford to buy in our favorite beach town, Ocean City, NJ. In the beginning, we had two toddlers and found a place behind Gillian’s Amusement Pier we could afford by sharing with two or three other couples for weekends. It was 1974 and it was
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